Today super dark, just happen an hour ago, after I back from lunch, I found out that I left my parking ticket inside my car, haih.., I have to do expenses report today, so force to get it, from office to my car is about 15 minutes walking distance, usually I will take shutter bus, but after a long wait, I decided to walk, after a long 15 minutes walk, finally, i reached my car, THEN, I found out that I left my car key on my desk. =S. THEN, I walked again for another 15 minutes back to office to get my car key. THEN. =......(, I repeated the same walk distance to get the parking ticket. WHYYYYYYYYYYY.
Part 2. After I got my parking ticket, then, I drove my car and parked in front of the office building, that time was around 4.30 pm, THEN, guess what, I got my first warning letter because of illegal parking. =S. WHYYYYYYYYYY.
It was a question from my friend actually, how to reject someone so that they will give up totally. Something similar that I found from Internet, sharing here. Please leave your comments if you have any ideas or experiences maybe. =).
How to Reject Someone Without Breaking Their Heart
Ever wanted to reject someone without the heartbreak and tears? It's not that hard, really. Just be sure to follow a few of these ideas and you will be able to step away from the encounter unscathed. Steps 1. Look around to make sure no one's watching. The worst that can happen is being rejected in front of other people! If there are people present, take their arm and try to slide away from the others. Perhaps if you can slip into a semi-private corner or at least to where the others are not within hearing distance. 2. Act like you feel sorry, and smile at the right times. Make sure you smile regretfully, like you really just wish you could give them a chance but it's not going to happen. This will soften the actual blow from the words. 3. Cheer them up a little. Be very kind to the person; being kind makes it easier on them. Be sure that your kindness does not stray into pity. The worst thing in a rejection is pity. They have put all their dignity and pride on the line, and pitying them will only make it harder on both of you to stay calm. If you act like you really don't want this person, be prepared for their reactions, mostly dejection, awkwardness and pain. 4. Use a calm, collected voice when speaking to them. Don't blurt out the first thing that comes into your head. Take a pause before you say anything and think of the best thing to say to either end all of the attraction instantly or keep them as a friend. Act like you care when you say "No", or you may start waterworks.
Tips * Don't be so rude to them! What point would there be in trying not to break their heart if you're rude!? * If the person gets mad, stay calm and keep acting a little sorry, but happy as well to try to calm them down. * The best thing to say when turning down someone that you do know or will have to see on a regular basis is that you value their friendship more than anything. This gives them their answer, without giving them any hope for the future. * If this is a person that you don't like at all, or will not have to ever see again, then keep the rejection as blunt as possible without being unnecessarily mean. This guarantees that they will not try again and will also not say bad things about you when you're not around. * It is also possible to say that you are honoured that they have feelings for you but it is not possible at this time for you to return them, but you hope that you can remain friends.
How To Reject Someone Nicely
Difficulty: Average Time Required: 5 - 15 minutes Here's How: 1. Don't lead the person to believe you may be interested. 2. Be polite and smile. 3. Get to the point quickly. 4. Tell them you appreciate their interest in you but your feelings toward them aren't the same. 5. Be nice; don't say you'd rather be friends if you have no intention of staying friendly. 6. Make it as painless as possible by being direct and NOT saying something like, 'if things were different.' 7. Don't over explain or make excuses -- you are not interested, plain and simple.
Tips: 1. You may think that being blunt seems mean but, in fact, it is much more mean to let somebody who doesn't have a chance with you think that they might. 2. Maintain eye contact, keep a calm and steady tone, smile and be polite. 3. Remember that the person being rejected may get angry and call you names -- don't take it personally, it is anger talking. 4. Remember that the person being rejected may act desperate to get you to change your mind -- don't give in to the antics.
Warnings * Do not flirt with them during or anytime soon after the rejection. It is very easy to just charm them with a compliment as you let them down, but be sure not to lay it on too thick or the "No" you are issuing will not be heard. * If you feel,however, that although now is not the right time, but maybe someday, give them hope with clear outlines. Let them know where they stand and perhaps what is holding you back from saying yes now.
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Example of Never Give Up.
The reasons of why someone fails to give up. 感情已經那麼深 叫我怎麼能放手. 普通朋友 作詞：陶吉吉 作曲：陶吉吉 等待 我隨時隨地在等待 做妳感情上的依賴 我沒有任何的疑問 這是愛 我猜 妳早就想要說明白 我覺得自己好失敗 從天堂掉落到深淵 多無奈 我願意改變 (what can I do) 重新再來一遍 (just give me chance) 我無法只是普通朋友 感情已經那麼深 叫我怎麼能放手 但妳說 I only wanna be your friend 做個朋友 我在妳心中只是 just a friend 不是情人 我感激妳對我這樣的坦白 但我給妳的愛暫時收不回來 So I 我不能只是 be your friend I just can't be your friend no,no,no,我不能只是做妳的朋友 不能只是做普通朋友
From my special friend, "我相信上帝的奇迹，因为我遇见了天使。有人说上帝为每个人派遣了一位专属的天使，而我很幸运地，在一个非常偶然的机会下，遇上了我的专属天使。 Archangel Gabriel - The Angel Of Resurrection, a loving angel whose name means "hero of God", The bearer of GOOD NEWS as the voice of God. Archangel Gabriel is a messenger who whispers in our ear of coming events, changes, and opportunities for new experiences. This beautiful Angel restores life and light into our lives and fills us with the remembrance of our divine purpose and destiny. I thank God for sending you to me. You are a special Archangel Gabriel of mine, I'll be forever grateful to you, and I will treasure this special friendship FOREVER I PROMISE."
It’s always been a mystery to me How two hearts can come together And love can last forever But now that I have found you, I believe That a miracle has come When God sends the perfect one Now gone are all my questions about why And I’ve never been so sure of anything in my life
Chorus: I wonder what God was thinking When He created you I wonder if He knew everything I would need Because He made all my dreams come true When God made you He must have been thinking about me
I promise that wherever you may go Wherever life may lead you With all my heart I’ll be there too From this moment on I want you to know I’ll let nothing come between us And I will love the ones you love
Bridge: He made the sun He made the moon To harmonize in perfect tune One Can’t move without the other They just have to be together And that is why I know it’s true You’re for me and I’m for you ‘Cause my world just Can’t be right Without you in my life
Tag chorus:
He must have heard every prayer I’ve been praying Yes He knew everything I would need When God made you When dreams come true When God made you He must have been thinking about me
Eric said, We did make a lot of decision in our life, but do you feel regret for sometime? Sometime there is no second choice or chance for something in our life.I did a DAMN SHIT decision in my life with my girl. The girl i love her for more than 7 years. i just knew she also love with me. But, the feeling gone as time passing by, just feel like a girl which i will protect & care for my whole life.So, we just remain best friend.She feel sad. Finally she leave because i asked her to leave & get her own Mr. Right. i cannot see any future between us. But, when she told me one day that she will get married soon,my heart feel loss loss & loss.DAMN...WHY? I regret i didn't stop her.I regret i didn't give second chance for myself & her.But, deep in my heart,i know i can't be fall in love with others girl anymore after her.This is because my heart stick with her.Cannot throw it cannot forget.I swear i will not make any regret decision in my life.I will attend her wedding dinner by next week.Dream broken,heart broken.Regret for my damn shit decision and thinking!!!
It is a communication chat in msn from me to my friend, suitable for those who face relationship problems. ( house => man). ET... says: she wanna buy a house that is out of what her can afford, the house is not for sales. ET... says: just go for another house... and maybe just think of the word 'worth'. ET... says: not worth for waiting and sad for something tat u cannot have. ET... says: the only thing she needs to do is to give up.. =). ET... says: human will only feel sad.. when they put hope on something. I think she is still putting hope on that house. ET... says: maybe that pariah house still gave her wrong signal.. that make her tot that she might able to have it. ET... says: but once she give up, then she will be ok, learn to be give up. =). ET... says: Like if you were joining for a competition, if u already give up.. u wont feel sad.. even if u lose. ET... says: maybe can ask your friend to try to be an actor. ET... says: playing role in her own life, everything will under her control. ET... says: maybe just act like a businessman for her relationship. ET... says: then consider tat whether the guy is worth for her to invest. ET... says: what will get in return? percentage of failure? ET... says: if negative in return, for example like she think most probably she will feel sad and get hurt... then she should reject that business. ET... says: we must have our dream, so that we can achieve our goals and always aim for higher, but sometimes need to know also when to wake up, and learn to give up. ET... says: it is time for her to move to new chapter.
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